coping with the holiday blues
Are you struggling with feeling jolly, bright, or merry? You are not alone. The holidays can bring conflicting feelings that can lead to sadness, anxiety, financial stress, loneliness, and isolation. This time can feel particularly challenging for those dealing with unresolved trauma, estranged relationships, memories of loved ones who have passed, and painful memories related to this time of the year.
You might find yourself struggling with experiencing joy while wondering what might be wrong with you for not feeling happy during the most "wonderful" time of the year. It is easy to feel lonely when you're struggling to feel joy while those around you are excited about the pumpkin pie, Christmas lights, and family gatherings. Yes, the family gatherings that make your chest feel tight and that you deeply dread.
So what are the holiday blues? The holiday blues are temporary feelings of sadness that last through the holiday season, specifically during November and December.
Some symptoms include:
1. Loss of pleasure in doing things you used to enjoy
2. Changes in sleep schedule
3. Changes in appetite or weight
4. Irritability and fatigue
5. Loneliness or isolation
6. Feeling more tired than usual
7. Feeling overwhelmed and stressed
Although it can be a difficult season to navigate, there are a few things that you can do to best cope with the holiday blues.
1. Prioritize your mental health through exercise to release any tension in your body, not canceling your therapy appointments and setting time for yourself.
2. Try keeping up with your daily routine as much as possible. It will help with keeping you grounded and decrease anxious feelings.
3. Create a financial plan to stay within your budget instead of getting in debt for others. After all, the best gift that you can give to those around you is love and compassion.
4. Spend time with people that make you feel safe, comfortable, and validated. In other words, people that make you feel warm during this cold season.
5. This is a great time to create new memories and traditions. People that grew up in chaotic homes might struggle to enjoy this time of the year as adults. Remember, you are in control now and can spend the holidays doing things that make you feel safe and grounded.
6. Lastly, you do not have to attend every family gathering, holiday office party, or social gathering. You have the right to say no, set a boundary, and decide how you want to spend your time.
Most importantly, know that you are not alone. That support is available, and you deserve to experience peace and joy on your terms during the holidays. Please seek professional help if these symptoms impact the quality of your life, are having thoughts of wanting to end your life, and if these symptoms last longer than the holiday season.